Ask Felinia

A reader writes...

"Dear Pussycat: I have been engaged to a man for three years and we still haven't set the date. It seems almost as if we have both lost interest in getting married, and maybe in each other, but neither wants to admit it or even go there are all. What should I do?"   --Weddingless in Wichita


Dear Weddingless: I can't tell you what to do; only you can decide. But perhaps I can offer insight. A relationship is not a 'failure' simply because it morphs into something else or even ends. Often two humans come together for an experience that they mean, on the soul level, to be short-lived. Not every male and female who date or become engaged or even marry are meant to celebrate a Golden wedding anniversary.

You often come together to explore your own issues, to face certain things... and simply for the experience of melding with that other person. So please do not feel guilty if you determine that it is time to move on. This relationship may have already served its purpose and now you are ready for something else.

                                                                                 Love your light,

                                                                                                        Felinia

CATMA says...

THE UNIVERSE IS CONSPIRING IN YOUR FAVOR

Yes, it's difficult to grasp this when you are standing in line at the DMV, stuck in traffic or, in my case, being mewled at by a boring tomcat. Nevertheless, it's true.

The Universe can be likened to a rushing stream. If you don't try to buck the current, you will be taken to places that will please you and be wonderful for your growth. So how does one buck the current of well-being? The usual ways... anger, fear, resentment, guilt, revenge, greed, lack of self-love.

Just row your boat gently down that stream and all will be well.

I Was Chased By a Large Dog

Just before dusk, the shadows turning murky, I was taking a leisurely stroll down a lovely country road. Mourning doves cooed, a slight breeze blew, and all was right with the world.

That is until, seemingly from nowhere, a thick-shanked German Shepherd with gravestone eyes was upon me bellowing barks as loud as a car horn. How rude! These canine types can be so gauche at times.

Well, I tore down that road, kicking gravel in the beast’s face, my heart banging like a broken piston. I veered into the weeded ditch and tried to shake the hell hound, but he was undeterred.

His Alpo-breath was singeing my tail when I leapt four feet up the trunk of a tall oak, dug in my claws, and climbed to safety. Wild-eyed, the monster jumped repeatedly against the trunk but of course could gain no purchase.

I sat on a branch, nostrils flared with my own hot breath, and mocking him with my eyes. He finally stopped his feckless barking, retreated, and slinked down the road. One might assume I was annoyed by the whole incident, even frightened. But no. I was exhilarated, the completion of a little game played by canines and felines countless times daily around the globe.

The episode got my blood pumping and, truth be told, was good fun.

My point? Challenges are not bad. If you were content and docile all the time, you might never move. Everything—everything—is ultimately for your growth. Try to revel in whatever comes. Welcome the surprises and challenges.

Sometimes exactly what you may need is a good heart-thumping chase.

CATMA says...

The opinions of others don't matter.

This is a hard one for many humans to grasp. It doesn't mean you should go around being a feral cuss, up in everyone's grill, growling and baring your teeth... because that is not your true nature.

It simply means that you must follow your own heart, your own inclinations and paths without regard for what your fellow humans think. What business is it of theirs, really, how you conduct the affairs of your life?

Look at us cats. We really couldn't care less what you think of us. We are happy when you are there and happy when you aren't. Sometimes we will go days ignoring you completely because we have our own agenda of basking, lounging and purring to fulfill. We still love you, but we aren't such people-pleasers to always consider your delicate feelings.

I think you will agree we are not malicious about this. But we follow the nudgings of our own soul. You would benefit from doing this too.

CATMA says...

Come back to the moment.

So many humans bleed off their precious creative energy with worry about future and-or regret of past. All of this is useless and does not serve you at all. Your power and joy is right now in this present moment. Come back, center yourself, and realize all, ultimately, is well right here and now.

Good Vibrations

The reason you are getting what you are in life has nothing to do with luck, and very little to do with hard work. It is all about vibration. Everything in the Universe vibrates, including you. Even your quantum physicists will tell you this.

So whatever vibration you are emitting is matched by similar vibrations in the Universe and this is how events, circumstances and fellow humans are attracted to you.

What is vibration? The stew of belief, thought, focus, self-definition, worldview and expectation you are constantly radiating. In short, your consciousness. And this is what is creating your earthly life.

Most humans are not aware of this, but even when they are they often continue to offer a haphazard vibration. So their creations are less than fulfilling and they attract to themselves unwanted circumstances. Thus people often feel like victims, as if things are happening to them when actually everything is happening through them. There are no victims, only willing participants.

So what’s a mother to do? Pay attention to your thoughts, beliefs and self-definitions. When you change them, you change vibration… then your life changes. The tone you emit is ALL. There are no exceptions to this. It is LAW.

Fortunately, you have a built-in guidance system called ‘emotion.’ When you feel less than happy and loving—say angry, frustrated or worse—that simply means you are momentarily pinching yourself off from source energy. You are vibrating at a lower rate and thus attracting to yourself lower experiences. The Universe is so loving that is will give you back whatever you are putting out. This is Law of Attraction.

So, Felinia says, become aware of your definitions and beliefs, then consciously change them. When you do, your life will have no choice but to change as well. This is Law. Set your tone to ‘well-being’ and magnetize more of that to you.

But also remember that there is no end point to any of this. There is no concrete goal, no finish line.

So relax. Have fun. Wag your tail.

CATMA is no dogma

I, Felinia, certainly realize there is much strife, confusion and even despair in your human world. Sometimes things seem nothing short of insane. I am not a magical cat; I cannot twitch my cute little pink nose and make the problems of the world disappear. And I wouldn’t even if I could. Do you know why? I’ll tell you why.
Because that would, in a sense, be taking away your own power. You have the inner strength and wherewithal to change things yourself. And beyond that, you need your human challenges. They are what keep you moving forward, keep you reaching, keep you creating anew. You don’t need a mommy or a daddy or a nanny or a babysitter to take care of things for you. You don’t even need your gods, not anymore. You have the power, yet most of you do not realize that.
But more and more are beginning to. Things are changing on your planet. All the tumult and chaos are simply the old structures and systems crumbling so that something new, more equitable and pleasant can rise phoenix-like. It is going to be a little hairy for awhile during this transition phase.
I cannot tell you how long this rocky period will last. No one really knows, certainly not Felinia. Why? Because it is you, YOU—collectively and individuality—who are creating this. It may seem that events and circumstances are being thrust upon you, but it is all a reflection of your own being. Heal your own human hearts and you heal the world. That is worth repeating. Attend to your own issues and wounds, heal them, and the planet itself heals.
So... how to heal self? Well, that is why I’m here. To help you through this period and to ease you out of the mud in which you have been rolling around for all these years. That’s not a judgment, simply an observation. You have been on the low road, but you can scamper to higher ground where the air is more pleasant and love blooms like wild flowers.
We are going to have some fun, you and I. This is not serious business, although some pretty profound points will be made along the way. We cats stay cool and relaxed most of the time. Unless someone throws water at us, in which case we freak out for a bit.
You are having water thrown on you right now. Maybe you will get a little wild-eyed, lose your mind for a moment or two.
I am here to tell you that your fur will dry and you will end up warm and content, purring by the roaring fire of vaulted consciousness.